For months I’ve been dealing with the lack of communication between WS2 and I. It has been really difficult to go through.
A few Friday’s ago, I sent BH an email letting him know that I wanted to set up dates for WS2′s summer visit with me. He wrote me back saying that he would let WS2 and I discuss it like we did before with Spring Break. I told him that I have been trying to call and all I get is voicemail and no returned calls. BH said he would tell WS2 to call me again.
Well, WS2 called me about 10 minutes after that email. He called from BH’s cell but only called my home phone. But I wasn’t at home, dontchaknow. I’m still trying to figure out why he didn’t call my cell when he didn’t get an answer at home….. (my guess is that BH was fishing for info to see if I was at home in NY or in TX since he said he didn’t “have good numbers for me”. I let him know that none of my numbers have changed.)
Anyway, BH emailed me back right away to say that WS2 had just tried to call but there was no answer. I told him I wasn’t at home and would he have WS2 call me on my cell. BH emailed me back saying that WS2 was already gone to “a previous engagement”. WTF?? I’m not allowed to know where my son is?
That following Sunday night I called WS2 thinking that SURELY he would answer since he had just tried to call me that Friday before. I thought this was logical reasoning since he knows I call every Sunday night at 8:30.
You guessed it. He didn’t answer.
That’s when I made my decision.
I can’t keep putting myself through this anymore. I need a break from this and the break starts now. I decided I’m not calling him for a while. And if that means that he doesn’t come for a visit this summer, then so be it. He knows that I call, and he knows that I want to make plans for his visit. If he can’t have the decency to answer or call me back, then it’s not going to happen. I want off this emotional roller coaster for a while.
Why should I be treated this way? If this were anybody else, I wouldn’t put up with it. Why should he get away with it just because he’s my son? Why should I subject myself to this form of treatment?
So I’m taking a break from calling WS2 on Sunday nights.
I know there will be people who don’t agree with my decision to do this, but I’m just. so. tired. I can’t handle another week of this right now. I won’t stop calling all together, I just need to take some time away from it. Like I told my mom, I’m putting it on the shelf for a while.
How about you? Have you ever had a one-sided relationship with anyone? And didn’t it totally SUCK? What did you do about it?