Before WS2 came to visit for the summer, my mom ran into BH’s mom aka FRAU at the grocery store. They’ve always gotten along and thankfully so, since they were once the middle women for the pick up’s and drop off’s of the boys. While they were talking, my mom happened to mention to FRAU that she still didn’t understand why WS1 doesn’t talk to her anymore either, except through thank you notes. FRAU said she would mention it to BH. Moma asked her not to say anything, because if WS1 decided to talk to her again, she wanted to know it was because he wanted to, not because he was being told to do so.

FRAU said ok.

Moma even called FRAU later on to be sure she knew that my mom didn’t want her to say anything to BH.

FRAU said ok.

When Moma and I (along with my aunt and cousin) took WS2 back to his dad after our summer vacation, BH wanted to talk to my mom.

FRAU had dished.

Since BH likes to set people straight, he tried to tell her that when he’s in town he brings the boys over to visit her. Moma told him she hadn’t seen WS1 in about two years now.

Lame defense, BH!

She also told him the only communication she has with him is when he sends her thank you notes for bday gifts, etc, and even then SM has to address the envelope.  BH tried to defend his woman by saying that she does that with her family because she knows them better. Moma said “this is WS1’s family, and HE knows US better. He’s 18 years old, he ought to be able to address his own envelopes.”

During the conversation, Moma asked BH about WS1. She said that WS1 owes her an explanation about why he doesn’t talk to her.  She told him that she doesn’t know anything about what he’s been up to, if he’s going to college, or what.  BH said that’s probably because WS1 doesn’t want her to tell me what’s going on. Moma said “he owes her an explanation too!”.  BH said that WS1 has had a hard time dealing with the “break up” of the family, as though it’s all MY fault. 

She asked him point blank what college WS1’s going to.  She didn’t give him an out, she said he was either going to tell her what school, or that it was none of her business. Thankfully BH told her. I’m so proud of Moma! She stood up for herself, and for me.  Like me, I think she’s getting tired of this whole circumstance and all the drama and theatrics that go along with it, although I really can’t speak for her. I do know that she loves and misses WS1 with all her heart.  Speaking for myself, I love and miss WS1 with all my heart.

I’m so glad they had that conversation. I’m sure to Moma it felt good to get some things off her chest, although I really can’t speak for her. Speaking for myself, I’m so happy to know that WS1 is going to college.

And NOW I KNOW WHERE!! 

It does this mother’s mind, heart, and soul good to have an idea about what he’s doing, since I think about him every day. It’s like going to your friend’s house and then later when she tells you she’s baking cookies, you can picture her in her kitchen.  Now I can picture WS1 going to classes, studying, and hanging out with his friends. And although this isn’t the same as a girlfriend’s kitchen, I can Google (my favorite verb btw, or at least my 2^nd favorite) information on his school like when classes start or what’s happening on campus.  And since I know where he’ll be, I can see what kind of weather he’s dealing with when the weather comes on.  Ahh, it’s the little things….

 Before this conversation, I had nothing to go on. I didn’t know what to think about what WS1 was doing. Now, thanks to FRAU having a big mouth, BH’s always-having-to-be-right and in-your-face ways, and Moma and her question, I have the gift of knowledge. 

That does this mother’s mind, heart, and soul good.